1. What exactly is a Humanist wedding and is it suitable for everyone? A humanist wedding is a wedding without the religious bits. Instead, it’s all about you as a couple—your love story, your beliefs and values, and celebrating in a unique and personalised way that feels right to you - whether you’re LGBTQ+, atheists, mixed-faith, mixed-cultures or just want a ceremony that doesn’t feel scripted and predictable.

With a humanist wedding, you have the freedom to incorporate personal elements such as favourite readings, music, or symbolic rituals that hold special meaning to you. You can leave out any traditions that don’t suit you. And humanist weddings can take place anywhere whether it’s a beach, a park, or even your own home – and at any date or time. This freedom allows you to choose a setting that resonates with  you as a couple, and means you are not tied into the availability of a registrar.

2. Are Humanist weddings legally recognized? Depends on where you are! If you’re in Scotland, Northern Ireland, Jersey and Guernsey —yep, they are fully legally recognised. In other places, including in England and Wales, you will need to do the legal bit separately. I can guide you through this process. Many of us have been to a registry office ceremony in England or Wales and felt it was all a bit, well, municipal. So why not treat the legal bit as the quick bit of admin that it is, and focus on creating the ceremony you want to remember.

Humanists UK are actively campaigning for marriage reform, and hope that the Government will bring forward changes soon to recognise Humanist weddings as legal (see campaign page here for the latest).

3. Who officiates a Humanist wedding and how does it work? A Humanist Celebrant (aka me).  I’ll help you craft a wedding that feels personal and meaningful.

Once you’ve chosen me as your celebrant, we’ll have a further planning meeting either in person or via zoom where I’ll ask you a series of questions to understand your love story as a couple. I will also want to talk about what vibe you want at the ceremony, whether that is romantic, entertaining, with or without guest participation, and we will discuss readings, poems, music, songs and/or ceremonial acts, like hand fasting. No “do you take this woman” unless you want that, it will be your choice, your ceremony.

Following the planning meeting, I’ll draw up a draft script which I’ll share with you for your comments and feedback. Once I have reflected your feedback, I’ll produce a final script and share it with you both too. I’d recommend a rehearsal call/virtual meeting closer to the actual wedding day and I’ll deliver the ceremony on the day.

I’ve been accredited with Humanists UK since July 2025.

4. Can we get married anywhere? Pretty much! Humanist weddings are super flexible—no need to be stuck in a traditional venue if that’s not your vibe, and I’m flexible travel-wise too.

 5. Can we include other languages? Yes, I’m fluent in Spanish and French, and can manage a more basic level in Italian or German.  We can include readings or poems, or key moments from the ceremony in either language, or conduct the whole ceremony bilingually. Including other languages can be a great way of making sure that all your guests feel included and part of the ceremony. The choice is yours. Por supuesto! Bien sur!